Thursday, September 18, 2014

Why Should This Year Be Any Sweeter?

Today I'm blogging at, talking about a new start.  The new year starts next week, and we're all charged for new beginnings.  But really?  Who says?

Check it out!  Let me know what you think.
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Sunday, September 7, 2014


'Tis the season for introspection.

Rosh Hashanah is upon us in a matter of weeks, which means it's time to engage in that self-reflective evaluation known in Hebrew as "cheshbon hanefesh." Which means a reckoning of the soul.

Each year I try, and delightfully (cough) succeed in coming up with something that I need to improve.  As I scan my deeds and lifestyle, there is one thing that consistently plagues me.


Saturday, August 30, 2014

Publishing and Other Blog News

Hey hey,

I know it's been kinda quiet on the blog of late.  Can you say "kids not in camp or school"?  OK, now say it ten times fast.  It's hard.

Anyhoo, figure I'd give you guys some exciting updates.

For one, I'm in the process (actually my daughter is - yay for tech-savvy kids) of creating an E-book of some of my posts.  WITHOUT THE COMMENTS, cuz that was somewhat emotionally and legally controversial.  Basically, all the posts categorized under "Why Orthodox Jews Do What They Do" (which is probably what it'll be called) will be collected, sorted by topic, and self-published.  It'll be on Amazon and all that fun stuff, and I'll let you know when it's all ready.


Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Book Review: Growing Up Amish

Quick poll: how many of you are endlessly fascinated by the Amish?  I used to think it was my Orthodoxy and my simultaneous identification/feeling of "otherness" that drew me to the Amish, but then realized that many of my fellow MOTs, Orthodox and otherwise, feel the same way.

I know how I feel when I read a book or see a documentary about my culture through the eyes of others (find me a documentary about the Orthodox, made by the Orthodox.  Bueller?).  Icky, that's how.  They never really get it right.  So I'm wise enough to be skeptical when I see or read such stuff about other cultures.  I know they're not hitting the nail quite on the head.

A couple of months ago, my husband and I were in Amish country checking out a bed-and-breakfast for a possible retreat weekend with our organization, and in the room was a book called "Growing Up Amish" by Ira Wagler.  I flipped it over and saw that it was a memoir written by a man who tried, multiple times, to remain in the Amish faith and ultimately left.  I wanted to plop right down in the rocking chair and read it, but understood the technical issues inherent in that particular choice, so I made a mental note to READ THAT BOOK.

Why?  I could tell, just from skimming that:


Sunday, August 10, 2014

Guest Post: The View From Ashdod

Ladies and gents of OOTOB, I present to you today a guest post from one Revital Belz, who lives in Israel.  She blogs at and is sharing her viewpoint of the current conflict in Israel.  I know social media and the blogosphere have been abuzz with information and emotions, and here she is in her own thoughtful and inspiring words.  Revital will be available over the next few days to respond to your thoughts and comments.

Although I left my native United States for Israel almost thirty years ago, I always felt a bit
separate from the "real" sabra Israeli society. The moment I opened my mouth, taxi drivers
would start speaking to me in broken English, proud to have identified me as one of those
crazy Americans who came to make Israel their home. My Brooklyn accent stubbornly
stayed with me, and living in my Orthodox community in Bnei Brak I sometimes felt as if I
was being cocooned, distant as it were from the true Israel.


Monday, August 4, 2014

Not This Year

Well, here we go again.  Tonight and tomorrow are Tisha B'av - the saddest time on the Jewish calendar.

It's always a struggle to "make myself sad" so I can appropriately commemorate this day.  Not this year, though.

It's usually tough to conjure up feelings of wistfulness about our nation's eventual return, unified, to our Land. Not this year, though.

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Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Kveller post: How My Holocaust Survivor Grandmother is Helping Me Stay Young Forever

Hey OOTOB readers!  Hope everyone is having a nice summer - albeit tempered by all the frightening news out of Israel.  I've been doing some traveling but I'm back, and I'm on Kveller today, talking about how my Holocaust survivor grandmother is helping me stay young forever.

I was the Peter Pan who was never going to grow up. 
I drank regular Coke well into my 20s, loved roller coasters when everyone else my age turned green thinking about them, went back to camp as a grown up for five years, and preferred surprise birthday parties well past adolescence 
Then, somewhere along the way, I changed. 
I think one reason I didn’t want to change was because, to me, the moment I stopped loving roller coasters, I was old. And by “old” I don’t mean mature, responsible, wise, or even physically less capable. I meant the kind of “old” I promised myself I’d never be: boring, pessimistic, jaded, Debbie Downer.  Read the rest here...